By Maria Popova
“To understand the vagina properly is to realize that it is not only coextensive with the female brain, but is also, essentially, part of the female soul.”
“The more closely we analyze what we consider ‘sexy,’” philosopher Alain de Botton argued in his meditation on sex, “the more clearly we will understand that eroticism is the feeling of excitement we experience at finding another human being who shares our values and our sense of the meaning of existence.” But in his attempt to counter the reductionism that frames human sexuality as a mere physiological phenomenon driven solely by our evolutionary biology, de Botton overcompensates by reducing in the opposite direction, negating the complex interplay of brain and biology, psychology and physiology, that propels the human sexual experience. That’s precisely what Naomi Wolf, author of the 1991 cultural classic The Beauty Myth, examines in Vagina: A New Biography (public library) — a fascinating exploration of the science behind the vastly misunderstood mind-body connection between brain and genitalia, consciousness and sexuality, the poetic and the scientific. What emerges is a revelation of how profoundly a woman’s bodily experience influences nearly every aspect of life, from stress to creativity, through the intricate machinery that links biology and beingness.
Wolf writes:
Wolf writes:
Female sexual pleasure, rightly understood, is not just about sexuality, or just about pleasure. It serves, also, as a medium of female self-knowledge and hopefulness; female creativity and courage; female focus and initiative; female bliss and transcendence; and as medium of a sensibility that feels very much like freedom. To understand the vagina properly is to realize that it is not only coextensive with the female brain, but is also, essentially, part of the female soul.[…]Once one understands what scientists at the most advanced laboratories and clinics around the world are confirming — that the vagina and the brain are essentially one network, or “one whole system,” as they tend to put it, and that the vagina mediates female confidence, creativity, and sense of transcendence — the answers to many of these seeming mysteries fall into place.
A pivotal player in this mediation is the female pelvic nerve — a sort of information superhighway that branches out from the base of the spinal cord to the cervix, connecting the latter to the brain and thus controlling much of sexual response. But this information superhighway is really more like a superlabyrinth, the architecture of which differs enormously from one woman to another, and is completely unique for each one. This diversity of wiring in the highly complex female pelvic neural network helps explain why women have wildly different triggers for orgasm. (By contrast, the male pelvic neural network is significantly simpler, consisting of comparatively regular neural pathways arranged neatly in a grid that surrounds the penis in a circle of pleasure.) This biological reality, Wolf points out, clashes jarringly with the dominant culturally constructed fantasy of how sexual intercourse is supposed to proceed:
The pornographic model of intercourse — even our culture’s conventional model of intercourse, which is quick, goal-oriented, linear, and focused on stimulation of perhaps one or two areas of a woman’s body — is just not going to do it for many women, or at least not in a very profound way, because it involves such a superficial part of the potential of women’s neurological sexual response systems.
Another key component of sexual experience is the autonomic nervous system (ANS) — the puppeteer of arousal, controlling all smooth muscle contractions and affecting the body’s response beyond conscious control. It encompasses both the sympathetic and parasympathetic divisions, and ensures they work in unison. Because arousal precedes orgasm, the ANS first needs to do its own work before the complex pelvic neural network can work its own magic.
Wolf writes:
For women, sexual response involves entering an altered state of consciousness. … In women, the biology of arousal is more delicate than most of us understand, and it depends significantly on this sensitive, magical, slowly calmed, and easily inhibited system.
To be sure, Wolf reminds us that it’s not at all uncommon for women to have a physiological response during rape, despite the enormous psychological pain and stress of the assault, but this response is not the same as the transcendent, dimensional orgasm that takes place when brain and body work in harmonious bliss. This also holds true in sexual situations that aren’t as violent as rape but still assault the ANS in one way or another:
If a woman’s ANS response is ignored, she can have intercourse and even climax; but she won’t necessarily feel released, transported, fulfilled, or in love, because only a superficial part of her capacity to respond has been made love to, or engaged.
In fact, the most fascinating aspect of the ANS, absolutely critical yet poorly understood, is that it is profoundly impacted by the mental landscape, steering the immutable interdependence between brain and vagina. The ANS, which serves as the translator between the psychological and the physiological, is thus particularly vulnerable to what psychologists call “bad stress.” (By contrast, the “good stress” many women experience in exciting or mock-dangerous sexual scenarios which they still control can be compelling and pleasurable.) “Bad stress” stems from the perceived lack of safety, and the presence of safety is absolutely essential to catapulting the female brain into the kind of “high” orgasm that is only possible in this disinhibited trance state.
Wolf explains:
This biological, evolutionary connection for women of possible ecstasy to emotional security has implications that cannot be overstressed. Relaxing allows for female arousal.Just as being valued and relaxed can heighten female sexual response, “bad stress” can dramatically interfere with all of women’s sexual processes.[…]“Bad stress,” researchers have now abundantly confirmed, has exactly the same kind of negative effect on female arousal and on the vagina itself. When a woman feels threatened or unsafe, the sympathetic nervous system — the parasympathetic nervous system’s partner in the ANS — kicks in. This system regulates the “fight or flight” response: as adrenaline and catecholamines are released in the brain, nonessential systems such as digestion and, yes, sexual response, close down; circulation constricts, because the heart needs all the blood available to help the body run or fight; and the message to the body is “get me out of here.” Based on [research insights], we now know that threatening environment — which can include even vague verbal threats centered on the vagina or dismissive language about the vagina — can close down female sexual response.
This notion that biology conditions consciousness and vice versa, of course, isn’t new. But the research Wolf cites presents compelling evidence that “bad stress,” especially rape and early sexual trauma, can have profound biological effects:
There is growing, if still preliminary, evidence that rape and early sexual trauma can indeed “stay in the body” — even stay in the vagina — and change the body on the most intimate, systemic level. Recovery is possible, but treatment should be specialized. Rape and early sex abuse can indeed permanently change the working of the sympathetic nervous system (SNS) — so crucial for female arousal; and, if she is not supported by the right treatment, it can permanently alter the way a woman breathes, the rate of her heart, her blood pressure, and her startle reaction, in a manner that is not under any conscious control.
Even more strikingly, some studies have found that elevated SNS activation is linked to a variety of health hazards seemingly unrelated to sexual trauma, including vertigo, motor control and balance issues, visual processing problems, and elevated startle response. In other words, sexual abuse alters the brain in a way that sabotages multiple body systems and damages healthy stress response. Wolf recapitulates the implications poignantly:
Understood in this way, and with this significant evidence, rape and sexual assault, with their attendant trauma, should be understood not just as a form of forced sex; they should also be understood as a form of injury to the brain and body, and even as a variant of castration.
Demonstrating just how strong the connection between mind and body is, Korean researchers discovered that stress and sexual trauma actually affect, on a biological level, the very functioning of the vagina. Studying female rats, they found that “chronic physical stress modifies [sexual behavior] through a mechanism believed to involve complex changes in sex hormones, endocrine factors, and neurotransmitters.” What’s more, they were able to identify the precise biological mechanism responsible for this deep-seated interplay:
Evidently nitric oxide (NO) and nitric oxide synthase (NOS) play important roles in vaginal and clitoral engorgement — helping the smooth muscle of the vagina relax and the vaginal tissues swell in preparation for arousal and orgasm — and these chemicals and their actions are inhibited when females are negatively stressed.
The researchers found that the stressed-out female rats were less receptive and more hostile to their male partners, displaying measurable aggression and irritability, and ultimately refusing to copulate. Stress, it turns out, diminished the female rats’ ability to reach arousal by greatly impairing their genital blood flow. The scientists concluded:
In animal model studies, mental or physical stress increases the level of serum catecholamines, thereby causing vascular contraction, which in turn reduces blood flow and leads to sexual dysfunction. . . . Since stress is concomitant with an increased output of catecholamines in blood . . . it is reasonable to assume that blood flow to the genital organs reduces during periods of stress. . . . [W]e measured norepinephrine as an indirect index of catecholamine level and found that it increased in the stress group and decreased in the recovery group. This result indirectly supports the suggestion that stress affects female genital blood flow.
Most ominous of all was the projection that if such stress levels were sustained over time, the physiological changes they cause would eventually affect the vaginal tissue itself. Indeed, researchers tested those tissues after the female rats were dead and found “biologically measurable changes.”
Women, of course, are not rats, but this only means that the effects of such stress are even more profound. Wolf argues that besides impairing women’s ability to reach orgasm, “bad stress” also affects the overall capacity for joy, hopefulness, and creativity. Unlike rats, humans are also susceptible to forms of abuse beyond the physical — Wolf cites the tragically prevalent cultural tendency to deride the vagina and its owner, embedded even in the slang we have for female genitalia.
She writes:
The role of manipulating female stress in targeting the vagina should not be ignored. This behavior—ridiculing the vagina—makes perfect instinctive sense. These acts are often impersonal and tactical—strategies for directing a kind of pressure at women that is not consciously understood but may be widely intuited, and even survive in folk memory, as eliciting a wider neuropsychological “bad stress” response that actually debilitates women.
She cites one particularly unsettling example:
In 2010, male Yale students gathered at a “Take Back the Night” event, where their female classmates were marching in a group, protesting against sexual assault. The young men chanted at the protesters, “No means yes and yes means anal.” Some of the young women brought a lawsuit against the university, arguing that tolerating such behavior created an unequal educational environment. Ethically they are in the right, and neurobiologically they are right as well. Almost all young women who face a group of their male peers chanting such slogans are likely to feel instinctively slightly panicked. On some level they are getting the message that they may be in the presence of would-be rapists — making it impossible to shrug off immature comments, as women are often asked to do. They sense there is a wider risk to them that is being threatened, and indeed there is, but it is not just the risk of sexual assault. If they are stressed regularly in this way, they will indeed depress the whole subtle and delicate network of neurobiological triggers and reactions that make them feel good, happy, competent, and as if they know themselves.
One study termed the complex and lasting effects of such stress, an increasingly recognizable medical pattern, “multisystem dysfunction” — and it can effect such a wide array of physical health issues as higher risk of diabetes and heart disease, hormonal imbalances, and fertility problems. But the most damaging consequences of these physical changes, Wolf argues, are cognitive and psychoemotional:
The female body reacts in the same way to “bad stress” whether the context is the birthing room or the university or the workplace. If the female brain senses that an environment is not safe, its stress response inhibits all the same organs and systems, regardless of setting. Many of the signals that either stoke or diminish female desire have to do with the female brain’s question: Is it safe for her?So if a woman goes to work or to study in a sexually dangerous or threatening atmosphere day after day, she risks — because of the cumulative, long-term effect of that “bad stress” — having the letting-go, creative “relaxation response” inhibited even outside her work or school environment.[…]If you sexually stress a woman enough, over time, other parts of her life are likely to go awry; she will have difficulty relaxing in bed eventually, as well as in the classroom or in the office. This in turn will inhibit the dopamine boost she might otherwise receive, which would in turn prevent the release of the chemicals in her brain that otherwise would make her confident, creative, hopeful, focused — and effective, especially relevant if she is competing academically or professionally with you. With this dynamic in mind, the phrase “fuck her up” takes on new meaning.[…]The vagina responds to the sense of female safety, in that circulation expands, including to the vagina, when a woman feels she is safe; but the blood vessels to the vagina constrict when she feels threatened. This may happen before the woman consciously interprets her setting as threatening. So if you continually verbally threaten or demean the vagina in the university or in the workplace, you continually signal to the woman’s brain and body that she is not safe. “Bad” stress is daily raising her heart rate, pumping adrenaline through her system, circulating catecholamines, and so on. This verbal abuse actually makes it more difficult for her to attend to the professional or academic tasks before her.
Yet despite the compelling scientific evidence, the most moving and encompassing point Wolf makes is an anthropological one:
Vagina: A New Biography is absolutely fascinating in its entirety. For a less scientific but no less pause-giving take, complement it with The Big Feminist BUT: Comics about Women, Men and the Ifs, Ands & Buts of Feminism, then revisitSusan Sontag on sex.The way in which any given culture treats the vagina — whether with respect or disrespect, caringly or disparagingly — is a metaphor for how women in general in that place and time are treated.
Found @ http://www.brainpickings.org/2013/09/23/naomi-wolf-vagina/
Fantastic article, well written and really interesting
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ReplyDeleteI would luv to hear ur song live...thanx 4 sharing
DeleteAmazingly interesting article - as an older woman who thought herself quite educated in feminine matters, I learnt a thing or ten. Thank you ��
ReplyDeleteThank you. This helped me to see some things about myself and really helped me to think about some important issues I have been having.
ReplyDeleteSexual trauma also occurred to me and one thing I do not see listed, and I hope this helps your study, is the effect it has on the urinary tract. I do not have a scientific background so I apologize for the blunt wording, but ever since I experienced "bad stress" from my two previous lovers, my bladder has never been the same. I'm assuming you mentioned this in your paragraph citing other ways harmful sex could affect the body but just in case, that's my story. I've been celebit for 25 months now and cannot imagine partaking in any sexual activity for quite some time. Thank you so much for publishing this!! You have finally released me from years of pain and torment!!! Bless you and good luck in your noble and loving quest to heal the world! :-)
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DeleteI concur with what you said. Thank you.
Wow. I never made this link, thank you for mentioning it. Ever since experiencing domestic and sexual violence, and further bad stress from a hostile corrupt and abusive police response several years ago, I have suffered from stress-related urge incontinence (no it's not an infection). I thought it was just me.
Deleteoh. wow. yes to this!
DeleteBladder and urinary tract are tools of mammal territorial marking. So when a woman feels threatened and helpless about an important piece of her world not in right way or place or demolished by somebody, bladder infection kicks in to fix the problem on somatic level
DeleteKidney and sexual energy intimately connected.. To reconnect perhaps some acupuncture.. Definitely self love and acceptance regardless of history.. Love and care for yourself NOW.. As NOW is what you have...
DeleteWOW, thank you ladies for these comments. I Was already profoundly moved by such an important article and thank god I randomly read through some of the comments, which I rarely do. The mystery to my bladder issues is now solved. I had been at a loss with how far I had come with my all my years of female issues, to wind up in my 40's with strange bladder issues. I sure do get it now. Feeling grateful, love and light to everyone on their journey
Deletewith the urinary tract it can be infection - just do some tests and take some medicine
ReplyDeleteSonya Erxn - the point is not whether it's an infection. The point being made is that is the sensory response to a perceived threat is to vasoconstrict, this could also result in urinary retention - meaning, the bladder does not fully empty the urine during voiding - which leads to urinary tract and bladder infections or bladder pain from retention and/or muscle spasming.
ReplyDeleteThis is basic biology -der. I have never heard such rubbish as - work in a vagina threatening environment!!?!? Plus, you don't know anything about rape. I won't be reading the book. Get yourself a good man and keep your money in your pocket - that's my advice.
ReplyDeleteThis statement in its entirety is not only abusive it completely helps support the article. The visceral reaction I just had to your statement was palpable. You should of put a "trigger alert" before your dumbass comment. If you are not getting laid on a regular basis YOU are the problem!
DeleteThis statement in its entirety is not only abusive it completely helps support the article. The visceral reaction I just had to your statement was palpable. You should of put a "trigger alert" before your dumbass comment. If you are not getting laid on a regular basis YOU are the problem!
DeleteThis is an interesting article and highlights a great deal of important points taken further it can also be seen to show the effect of abuse in cases of female circumsion that occurs and the trauma this must have even further than the immediate trauma, which of course must be the desired effect of the perpetrators a terrible form of female control physical and mentally fascinating
DeleteThis is an interesting article and highlights a great deal of important points taken further it can also be seen to show the effect of abuse in cases of female circumsion that occurs and the trauma this must have even further than the immediate trauma, which of course must be the desired effect of the perpetrators a terrible form of female control physical and mentally fascinating
DeleteThis is an interesting article and highlights a great deal of important points taken further it can also be seen to show the effect of abuse in cases of female circumsion that occurs and the trauma this must have even further than the immediate trauma, which of course must be the desired effect of the perpetrators a terrible form of female control physical and mentally fascinating
DeleteUnknown, i know you're a man, you fucking coward. And if by any chance you're a woman, my goddess, may she has pity on your soul. You need help.
DeleteThat last statement was colder than a witches tit. Are you suggesting thatthe whole destiny for a woman depends on " getting a good man?
ReplyDeleteWell I'm suggesting that there won't be any good men left if we keep subjecting ourselves to their dadistic chauvenistic tendancies. Apparently this person wears the pants in her family. But my life is testimony to the study's revelations..
Furthers me to understand why I am petrified for these taraits of IN -sensativity in all parts of our society. And why the new world order is genocide. Im not gay just extremely cautious about men who even oogle over my body. And why it feels safer to cover up. I was exposed to rapests since I was ten.
But the worst rapes occurred in my life were encouraged by the talk amongst my people who knew they could get their Mitts on me the day of my father's funeral. That night someone who was given the key to my fathers apartment where i was forced to stay after my home was burnt down...14 days before he died ( a home my father helped me purchase. One repairman came to the apartment for suplies, raped me til 5 in the morning while I was trying to protect my children... I remember while fighting till i was beat to a pulp eying the boquet of flowers from Dads funeral that were given to me earlier thatday. And then my brother's friend that later became the manager of my fathers business took his turn in their wild lust for greed. I was so scard that I wanst able to respond or protest. Which is the way I have become. All my life. I trust no one and cant wait till Im so old wrinkled and grey that a man will never look at me again.
The issue isnt that its not fair that I cant GET A MAN... The issue is that I can't be free to be happy just being my original beautiful self. without shame and self doubt! I will never feel safe while the eyes of horus and even God are upon me. This little red riding hood wants to become a nun. But i hear nowadays that THAT is dangerous too.
Study the Goddess, if only for an archetypal view of female gifts and power. We don't see that in our society. It's just good to have the perspective of the ancient feminine.
DeleteBut how can the male species understand this if we dont educate them, or even acknowledge it in ourselves? We must. Must must must MUST be true to ourselves. And honest to our time on this earth.
ReplyDeleteThat last statement was colder than a witches tit. Are you suggesting thatthe whole destiny for a woman depends on,
ReplyDelete"getting a good man"?
Well I'm suggesting that there won't be any good men left if we keep subjecting ourselves to their sadistic chauvenistic tendancies.
Apparently this person wears the pants in her family. But my life is testimony to the study's revelations..
Furthers me to understand why I am petrified for these traits of
IN-sensativity in all parts of our society. And why the new world order is genocide. Im not gay just extremely cautious about men who even oogle over my body. And why it feels safer to cover up. I was exposed to rapists since I was ten.
But the worst rapes occurred in my life were encouraged by the talk amongst my people who knew they could get their Mitts on me the day of my father's funeral.
That night someone who was given the key to my fathers apartment where i was forced to stay after my home was burnt down...14 days before he died (a home my father helped me purchase). One repairman came to the apartment for suplies,raped me til 5 in the morning while I was trying to protect my children... I remember while fighting till i was beat to a pulp eying the boquet of flowers from Dads funeral that were given to me earlier that day to take home with me.... And then my brother's friend that later became the manager of my fathers business took his turn in their wild lust for greed just a few hours later and victim response unit wasat the time economically disabled...
I was so scard that I wanst able to respond or protest. Still in deep shock and grief again my motive was to protect the children
Which is the way I have become. All my life. I trust no one and can't wait till Im so old wrinkled and grey that a man will never look at me again.
The issue isnt that its not fair that I cant GET A MAN... The issue is that I can't be free to be happy just being my original beautiful self without shame and self doubt! I am vigilant and strong...but...I will never feel safe while the eyes of horus and even God are upon me. This little red riding hood wants to become a nun. But I hear nowadays that THAT is dangerous too.
wondering what else might cause 'bad stress' (besides fear/lack of safety)?
ReplyDeleteI was wondering the same thing...
Deletewow -the collision of worlds - one integrating love, mind, body and soul and the other an egoistic beast looking for self satisfaction - it is sad when a woman's physique becomes a battle ground -the only thing one can do is to cry out loud -may love cover your wounds
ReplyDeleteThe funny thing is, all male nipples are actually female. All males are female in utero until the hormonal kick that makes them male. Male nipples are female remnants. Thus, cutting and pasting a "male" nipple over a female one is not going to do the trick, Facebookers. :) Just sayin'!
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Sexual energy and kidney energy are intimately connected.. One effects the other.. As for the condition of our cultures regarding female and male sexuality. A lot of education is necessary. Self exploration, self love. Smiling into our sexual organs..loving our sex, our sexuality our bodies. And that not dependant on whether we choose to share our body it another. And be sure to share, not give away.... A Hugh difference..
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ReplyDeleteThis is one of the most significant articles on female sexuality I've come across. As a victim of childhood sexual abuse, consistent subliminal threats to my personal safety and total lack of respect and reverence for femininity in the society I was born into reading this has left me feeling incredibly emotional. With my next breath I'm celebrating my victory over all the darkness thats been thrown my way. Its been a long time coming. The emotional wound caused many physical health issues including vaginal thrush, urinary tract infections, endometriosis, fibroids..........there is no doubt in my mind as a Kundalini Yoga Teacher working with this field of super sensory awareness - our ANS and CNS and interic nervous system that everything is connected. Nothing presents physically that doesn't have a psychological root cause. And I mean nothing! It has also been the way out of the pain and back to health and wholeness for me - this yoga odyssey. Today I am a sensual orgasmic beautiful being, deeply in touch with how I feel every minute of my waking day. What is vital though is not to denigrate and hate the perpetrators of these crimes against our femininity. As women and mothers and sisters and friends we need to connect and support each other, not attack and belittle. We must speak out and claim our rightful place on this awesome planet. We need to help our men and our sons to celebrate our power and strength not fear it. Reading this article has made it all very clear. Thank you so much. I will be sharing it and hope that all Human Beings will benefit from reading it.
ReplyDeleteI am so pleased read this simple explanation of the huge subject of sexual intimacy. I have been married a very long time and unfortunately sex has become just that sex. Real intimacy & the exhilaration of connection with another human regardless of each other's sex is the key to all inner peace. The actual act of intercourse in the traditional sense I have come to realize is not satisfying on any level . Excellent article
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